Watching Porn with your Significant Other – Are There Any Benefits?
Sex Educator, Product Reviewer, and Host of Open Bobs BB
Porn is a controversial subject…
I want to start by saying every relationship is different. There is so much that goes into whether or not partners are accepting of porn being in their relationship or against it. In the end, this is all a conversation that needs to be had with your partner and the decision must be honored.
A Conversation Starter
Your partner may never change their mind about disliking porn. But it’s important to find out WHY they dislike it. Ensure that you sit down and listen to their point of view. They may just not be interested in the type of porn you choose to watch. In that case? Ask and find the type they enjoy. If they find porn distasteful in general, you’ve learned something about your partner and started the conversation. Learning more about you and your partner’s interests in the bedroom and out of the bedroom is essential, even if it doesn’t give us the results we want.
Having a conversation with your partner is a surefire way to get everything out on the table. Just make sure you don’t jump down their throat with reasons why their feelings are ‘wrong’ to you. (Check out this blog about more topics to bring up with your significant other HERE)
Ease into it
If you have been able to talk your partner into exploring watching porn with you, I highly suggest watching something very comfortable first. I recommend watching something that showcases an act you both like. Perhaps an oral scene or some sensual massaging? Don’t shock someone out of their comfort zone the first time by jumping to something out of the box! This is your partner, ASK what they like and share your interests as well. It’s the same with introducing toys in the bedroom, if you bring out the huge dildo first – you risk your partner shying away from continued exploration.
Be careful of feelings and Feed the Fantasy!
If you don’t have the sort of relationship where you can both look at others and comment on their appearance positively, be careful when complimenting what you see on screen. This may be a big step for your partner and if they are left feeling uncomfortable it won’t be helpful.
Ensure your partner knows you prefer them always, it’s simply a fun thing to add to your sex life! Much like a new toy or a sex position! Focus on your partner when porn is playing and try mimicking some of the general things you see on the screen. For instance, if there is oral on the screen, give it to them at the same time to feed the fantasy!
Give your partner a massage with some oil as you watch the movie. Using porn as a form of foreplay before enjoying each other without it can do wonders to edge and build on that pleasure before the big act!
