How to Safely Start Anal Play
Slow and Steady!
When it comes to anal play it’s important to go slow and steady. If you jump in and grab a large toy or have anal sex with your partner it can lead to discomfort. This area of the body needs to be stimulated and lubricated before slowly working up to something larger. It’s not self-lubricating!
If you want to use toys or work your way up, start with your fingers. Maybe watch a little bit of porn or tease with your partner while you work a lubed-up finger inside yourself. After that feels comfortable, try adding a small toy and going from there.
Make Sure to Have the Conversation!
If you want to try anal with your partner it’s important to have the conversation. Jumping in when you’re having sex is never a good way to approach a new thing in the bedroom. Respect your partner, especially if they decide this isn’t for them during the act.
It’s never a bad idea to have a safe word ready to help with communication. Even a ‘red light, green light’ approach is better than not having something at all. This will ensure you can easily communicate with each other during the act and know when to take things slower, faster, or to stop entirely. You might be surprised at how fun talking things out before the act can be!
Double Stimulation
Relaxation and foreplay are really important. If you’re tense and nervous, I promise you, it won’t be comfortable. Engage in foreplay and let your mind relax or set a comfortable scene that doesn’t stress you out. Perhaps lighting a candle or turning on some music will help! Once you stop overthinking things, your body will follow suit and your muscles will relax as well.
For some people (myself included) anal without other forms of stimulation isn’t fun. While you’re playing anally, have your partner (or you can) hold a vibrator against your genitals or nipples. Try using your fingers as well and see how nice the dual stimulation feels! There are even some toys that are perfect for simultaneously stimulating the anus and other parts of the body.
LUBE LUBE AND MORE LUBE
NEVER engage in any sort of anal play without using proper lubrication. As I mentioned before, this is not a self-lubricating part of the body and it needs to be relaxed. Make sure you are not using an oil-based lubrication if you’re using condoms, as this will break down the latex. Water-based is always a safe bet!
My final piece of advice? NEVER EVER EVER go from anal to vaginal play. This allows for the transfer of bacteria and can lead to many different complications and infections. Keep those toys clean before using them with partners or with other parts of your body.
All-in-all, anal is a whole other sensation that can easily be introduced in the bedroom no matter what gender you are. It’s another way to claim your pleasure and have fun while you do!
