Role Play is an incredible way to connect.

Role Playing is incredibly popular and it’s a great way to spice things up. Still, it’s important to remember there is not one set way to do it and you can commit however you want! In the end, it’s about connecting even further with your partner, and yourself.

(Full class can be viewed at the bottom of the article!)

Have The Conversation First

Before engaging in role-play, it’s important to sit down with your partner and go over the topic. Have the conversation and don’t be afraid to bring up the fantasies and desires you have! This should always be a judgment-free zone to discuss.

It’s also important to remember that not all roleplay fantasies and desires are directly related to our morals and feelings outside of the bedroom. Role play often acts out a fantasy that ONLY exists in the bedroom. Sometimes your partner may not be interested in the scene you’ve presented and it’s important to accept that. Still, talking about desires and fantasies can be a fantastic way to arouse and excite partners and is even a form of foreplay.

While having the conversation, always have a safe word before you start the act. Both a verbal and non-verbal safe word will ensure you can stop at any point without any confusion if things get overwhelming or need to change.

Pick The Role

Not all role-plays engage in power-play dynamics, but they can! This is a situation in which one person plays a more submissive role and the other person plays a more dominant. It’s important to discuss expectations and preferences with your partner so you have a clear image of the role you are going to play.

Here are some ideas of roleplays!:

Employee and Employer
College Teacher and Student
Delivery Driver and Customer
Meeting for the First Time at a Bar/Club/Movie Theater
A Favorite Scene from a Movie or Book

Don’t be afraid to dress up the scene with some toys or props like wigs! Make up a fake name and embrace a new personality or character that you might not normally act like. Not only does this allow you to dive further into the fantasy, but it is a ton of fun!

Don’t Be Afraid to Laugh!

So many people decide they don’t want to try role play because they are afraid they won’t be able to take it seriously. Role play is first and foremost about fun and there’s nothing wrong with having a bit of laughter!

If you go on a date and the dinner spot has to change and things alter BUT you had an amazing time, is it a wasted date? No. The experience was still valuable and enjoyable and roleplaying should be viewed in the same lense.

Watch the FULL class on Role Play 101, below! Make it a date night!