Pegging can be an exciting way to connect with your partner

Whether you’re the one who wants to peg someone or the ‘pegee’, it’s an act that is enjoyable by all. Still, it can be overwhelming to figure out where to start and how to navigate pegging safely.

Thankfully, the experts at Open Bobs BB have your back!

What is Pegging?

Pegging is where one partner penetrates the other partner anally. This can be with a toy in their hand or a toy in a strap-on harness. It can be enjoyed by anyone regardless of their gender or sexual preferences and must be navigated with full consent and safety in mind.

How About a Safe Word?

When you first speak with your partner about pegging, always make sure you discuss all limitations and hard no’s. If anal is new to you both (or even if it isn’t) make sure to have a verbal and non-verbal safe word in place. This ensures you can stop immediately if something is uncomfortable or painful and you want to stop.

Examples of verbal safe words: You can always say red light or perhaps use a word the two of you know from an inside joke. For a very long time, my safe word was Charizard. You can always agree on the word ‘stop’, but I do know that it can often interfere with some power-play dynamics depending on how you play. Use your best discretion and find something that works for you both.

Examples of non-verbal safe words: In case you are gagged, overwhelmed, or have a hard time speaking at the moment (or in general), use a non-verbal safe word. This can be a tap against their arm, the bed, a bell in your hand, or even a whistle.

Finding The Right Tools for the Job

Now that the conversation about limits and expectations has been had with your partner, it’s time to find the tools!

Start with lubrication. It’s anal and you’re going to want to go slow and use lots of lubrication so it’s important to find a good, water-based lube. If you already have a favorite, yay! If you’re looking for a suggestion, I recommend the Sliquid H2O.

Now you’re going to need a good pegging dildo and harness! I recommend finding a good silicone dildo. Silicone is not only body-safe but easy to clean and feels fantastic with lubrication. If you are a beginner it’s important to find a slim dildo without too much texture (and a slight curve if you have a prostate!). This will ensure it’s slim enough for penetration and for training up without being overwhelming.

Beginners, I highly recommend this kit if you’re starting from scratch. The Body Dock Pegging Kit comes with a silicone dildo and the harness is compatible with other suction cup based dildos so you can easily move onto other sizes and shapes!

Use Lots of Lube!

There’s no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal exploration. This area of the body is not self-lubricating and a little bit of help goes a long way. Make sure to lubricate any fingers and toys before you play and don’t be afraid to add more throughout if you need to.

Start Slow

Start with your fingers before diving into the toy. Make sure your fingers and the toy are well-lubricated! Using your fingers first will ensure you are ready for something larger. The rectum can be trained to accommodate larger toys but it takes time and patience.

Once you feel no discomfort or pain and feel comfortable moving up, feel free to use the toy!

Use Positions That Feel Best!

Explore with your partner and find what positions you enjoy best. This can be different for every partner and some even enjoy using other stimulators like vibrators on the body during penetration! Here are a few positions to give a try!

Doggystyle: This allows for deeper penetration and gives both you and your partner control to push back and forth and navigate depth and speed with ease.

Laying on the side: Lay down on your side and bring your partner behind you as they raise your leg and penetrate. This position is relaxed and brings both partners close together. A more sensual position, this is great for exploring sensations anally.

Final Words of Safety!

When pegging, it’s incredibly important to keep clean. Never forget to clean toys before and after use and do not use toys that have been used anally in your mouth or other orifices. Accidents happen and bacteria can linger on toys during anal play. This is entirely normal and not something to ever be ashamed about!

Have fun, have a conversation with your partner, go shopping for new toys, stay safe and ENJOY!